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Your Purpose In Life

Why are we here on this earth? The answer to this question depends on what you believe. Maybe it’s tied to faith, maybe it’s a personal philosophy. One thing’s for sure, everyone’s answer can differ, and not one is more correct than the other. It’s human nature to want to find the meaning of life, which is why we have dreams. The idea of dreams gives us something to look forward to, so much so that our dreams become our purpose in life. This is where we can really explore the possibility that our purpose in life does not necessarily mean that we have to have dreams of what we want to achieve in life. For example, if we think that our dreams of getting married and having a family are dashed because of unforeseen circumstances, it does not mean that our life will suddenly have less meaning. Our reason of being here on this earth, can’t be so that we can achieve our dreams. Our purpose of existence can’t be to get married, or to procreate, or to work, or to make money. These are human decisions and human desires. Our purpose in life is something we have to figure out for ourselves, and it can’t be attached to one singular thing – because our purpose is not linked to what we have or don’t have – it is attached to how we live. Disappointments are part of life. It sounds easy to say, but in reality, disappointments can crush dreams and leave us feeling like we have nothing to live for. This is where it is extremely important to know that our dreams are not us – they are our desires. What we are here on earth for – it is beyond our dreams and we can achieve – the biggest privilege of being human is simply our ability to hope, and the ability to live a meaningful life. We might not know why we are here on earth, but now that we are here, we get to go on this journey of immense experience for a period of time. This journey doesn’t get better when we achieve our dreams, this journey is already a privilege. Live your life making the best of each day, and be happy, always.

Believe On Yourself

We want to break the bad habits or negative patterns in our life, but sometimes, it’s so hard that we start to feel like there really is no point. We keep trying, and we keep failing. But are we really failing? Sometimes we take 5 steps forward and 3 steps back, and we feel so dejected by the 3 steps back that we think that there’s no change. But the fact is that we are moving forward, and the change creeps up over us, small enough to escape our notice. But if we keep taking steps forward, in time, the ‘insignificant’ progress will all accumulate into a significant change. You’ll see it is when something major happens in your life and you realize that you’re handling it better than you would have before. That’s progress. We understand that we have to keep exercising for a period of time and eventually we’ll see the changes in our body, so why is it that we become so easily dejected and feel like a failure when it comes to our progress in life? When our friend faces challenges, we would help and encourage her, we wouldn’t tell her she should be disappointed in herself or that she should give up on herself. So when it comes to our own flaws, and our own progress in life, we should encourage and help ourselves, not feel like we’re a failure or that we’re not good enough. Don’t ever give up putting in effort to create positive changes in your life, because as long as we’re trying, we ARE moving forward, and that’s the important part. Believe in yourself, and be happy, always.

 

The Secret of Life

I’m traveling around the world at the moment, sharing the Open hand Philosophy on life, and I find myself on a stopover in Hawaii, on my way to the US West Coast. Hawaii of course is considered a paradisiacal destination – sun, sea, sand and surf. This morning I was out early on the beach, catching the waves myself, but not surfing ones, these were waves of my soul. With each breath, each movement in deep consciousness, the unleashing of soul became ever more blissful. As I watched the surfers working hard to catch each wave, I was feeling life can be so straightforward if we allow it to. We don’t have to effort and struggle at all; in fact that just takes us away from the heavenly nirvana which is in everyone’s reach…

Wow. What a feeling!

Soul is that intangible elixir that so many seem to struggle to find. Yet it’s the answer to all our dreams, all our desires, wishes, goals and ambitions. How do you feel when something good really happens? What about when you’re in love? How is it when everything seems to just click magically into place around you? These feelings are essences of soul. And when we’re connected to it, we’re momentarily connected to the entirety of the universe. It feels like you just came home to yourself. Wow. What a feeling!

 

For many, sadly, these experiences are momentary. It’s because the soul is intangible, like the wind in the trees – you only know it by the trail that it leaves. And society is good at mirroring aspects of soul, through fleeting activations that feel good: comfort food, entertainment, exercise, soft drugs; ‘victories’ through attainment of some goal or objective.

Society seems purposefully configured to attach people to the object of their desires rather that subject – the subject being the unleashing of soul. So we’re conned into believing if we strive for a particular physical phenomenon, then that will deliver the relaxation, expansion, love, joy or peace that we’re looking for. In actual fact, the striving delivers ever less of the feeling, and so we need to greedily consume ever more just to get it. This is why society – and our environment – is in the predicament it is.

Taking to the waves

This morning I was doing ever-so-simple soulmotion, something Openhand has developed. The best way to describe it is a combination of basic yoga type postures, combined with a pilates ‘squeeze’, which then unleashes free flowing movement similar to Tai Chi (although it doesn’t take 30 years to master!). Each movement was bringing me ever deeper into expansion, joy and bliss. It was profoundly simple, and yet profoundly rewarding.

During my session, a surfer took to the waves in front of me. He was clearly a good surfer, yet it occurred to me just how hard he had to work to catch each particular wave, and that each had a limited duration – a flash in time. What was he getting from it I wondered? Soul of course.

Each activity in life that we truly enjoy, will capture that momentary glimpse of the intangible.

It also occurred to me that I was seeing a metaphor of the matrix. You are in the matrix whenever you’re controlled by some kind of program that fixes you to a certain behaviour or activity (which, paradoxically, could even be ‘spiritual’ or surfing!). You see the flow is exactly that – the flowing soul has no fixed direction or plan to do anything, it just flows. And so this surfer seemed completely dependent on the movement of each wave, just as people are in society. Society has regulated the flow, cut across it, packaged it up in bite size chunks, which it then sells to people and enslaves them with.

This may work for a while, it may deliver that ‘bite-sized-chunk’, except there’s an ultimate limitation to it. Even every bite of energy is interconnected to the whole, a whole which is constantly moving toward realignment of interconnected flows. Unity consciousness pulls even on these bite size chunks and steadily reconnects them. Which is why resources in a particular form don’t last for ever (fossil fuel industry beware!).

So what does this tell us about the secret of life?

Look always for the sense of ‘Rightness’ within

Don’t try to fix on any particular thing or behaviourim. Each aspect of society is simply designed to capture a momentary bite out of flowing consciousness – of soul. Instead, get to know how you can unleash soul ALL THE TIME, in many varied ways. It could be with something as simple as deep breathing, or body movement, creativity, a walk in nature, observing the natural wildlife. How does it make you feel inside?


Look for that sense of rightness within, the subtle vibrations of expansiveness and freedom – the timelessness of not needing it to go a certain way. Then keep focusing on these feelings until they start to guide you in life as an inner pull or higher knowing – “go this way now”.

Commit yourself to following these guidances – where will they take you?

It’s time to let go!

They’ll take you in a direction to deliver even more of this flowing experience. But this includes all the places where the flow closes down in you: perhaps there’s physical attachment which causes density by the type of food that you eat; there could be emotional attachment in your relationships; or else there may be some attachment of mind in your career or general living circumstances. This is where the flow closes down so the soul is inviting you to soften and expand through – to unravel ego in those places which limit the flow of soul.

 

Society is steadily collapsing as the bite size chunks of soul-consciousness, in all sentient life, release and reconnect in the direction of the Higher 5D Paradigm. So there really is no sense clinging on to the behaviourisms of the old reality – they’ll progressively have less and less energy, which you’ll have to work ever harder for.

It’s time to let go. Connect up with the soul and simply flow with it. Yes it will challenge you, yes it will break YOU – your ego – down. But as it does so, soul is unleashed. You connect up to the majestic realigning movement which can be realized in the simplest of things, the most ‘ordinary’ of moments. Now life is truly worth living. You’ve discovered its eternal secret. What a blessing!

 

Happiness State of Mind Quotes

A guy met one of his school mates several years after school and he could not believe his eyes; his friend was driving one of the latest sleek Mercedes Benz cars.

He went home feeling awful and very disappointed in himself.
He thought he was a failure.

What he didn’t know was that his friend was a driver and had been sent to run errands with his boss’s car.

Rosemary nagged her husband always for not being romantic.
She accused him for not getting down to open the car door for her as her friend Jane’s husband did when he dropped her off at work.

What Rosemary didn’t know that Jane’s husband car had a faulty door that could only be opened from the outside.

Sampson’s wife went to visit one of her long time friends and was very troubled within for seeing the 3 lovely kids of her friend playing around.

Her problem was that she had only one child and have been struggling to conceive for the past five years.

What she didn’t know was that one of those kids who was the biological child of her friend had sickle cell and had just a year to live; the other two are adopted.

Life does not have a universal measuring tool so create yours and use it.

Looking at people and comparing yourself with them will not make you better.

If you knew the sort of load the chameleon carried, you would’nt ask why it takes those gentle strides.

Enjoy what you have…!!

Lifestyle is not a competition, various lanes lead to the same destination.

Just because our neighbour has amassed material possessions, it does not mean that we are a failure.

Happiness doesn’t come from having everything, but making the best out of what we have, it’s all about how we see ourselves.

Happiness is not having what we like.
Happiness is liking what we have and learning to make the most of it by giving it!!!
Happiness is a state of mind !!

3 Level not being Angry or Upset 

Anger is not a bad emotion. It’s a human emotion. It’s very rare that people don’t experience the feeling of anger. Some people however, have cultivated the ability to not let anger take over their emotions or dictate their actions. Most of us have to try hard to not be affected by anger, and the work towards being a less angry person takes us through 3 different stages: The first stage is where we learn to suppress our anger. This is a stage most of us have instinctively managed to grasp, because we learn early on in life that we can’t just throw tantrums or lose our temper in public, at work, or even at home. But this is also the stage where all the frustration and anger accumulates and builds up somewhere inside of us, where one day we have to let it all out, and that usually doesn't bode so well for us, either for our own stress levels or for our relationships with people. The second stage, is where we’ve developed the ability to let go of anger, where whenever we feel a negative charge, we’re able to immediately recognise it and change the trajectory of our feelings. Letting go of anger can be immensely difficult because it requires a complete acknowledgement of our ego, and an extremely present state of mind to focus on our objectives. Letting go of anger is only possible when we understand that we’re not doing it for others, but for ourselves. The third stage is where we’re completely free from the feeling of anger. No matter what anyone says or does, no matter how bad things get or what the circumstances are… the feeling of anger is simply absent. This sounds incredible, even impossible, because we’re human afterall - we’re not robots. But people who never get angry aren't weird or strange, rather, they have the highest level of empathy, understanding and acceptance, and their worldview, mindset and way of life makes it impossible for anger or hatred. Anger is interesting, because every time we experience the emotion we discover something about ourselves. And as strange as it may sound, it’s fun when we get to test out with new ways of rising above our anger, of being better versions of ourselves. Not as a pressure or goal, but simply as an experiment, to see what new skills we can pick up, and in what ways we can teach ourselves to be happy, always. 

Communication Without Expectations

What are you thinking? Tell me what are you thinking? Why can’t you just tell me? Some people, when faced with a difficult conversation, find it very, very hard to verbalise their thoughts. When we ask someone to tell us what they’re thinking, we can feel frustrated because we can’t get an answer out of them. We might always feel like we don’t know what they truly think. If this is a person we want to cultivate a good relationship with, getting frustrated with them not only doesn’t help, it may hurt because resentment builds up. Yet we’re human and we can’t help feeing like the person doesn’t care enough to tell us what they think. This is why communicating with someone we care about can be one of the most difficult things in the world to do. What can help, is to first remind ourselves that most people have an opinion, all of us want to be heard or understood, so if someone feels like they’re not able to voice their thoughts, there must be a reason. Every single person is completely responsible for how they communicate. Even if someone thinks they can’t express themselves because of you – that you’re the reason they’re afraid to talk – it’s still something they themselves have to work on, for them to reflect on why they are afraid. But because communication is a two-way thing, it is also our responsibility to create a safe environment for people to talk to us. We have to ask ourselves if we are truly patient, or if we’re forcing ourselves to be patient when inside we feel impatient. Because no matter what we SAY, like “You can talk to me”. It’s what we feel inside that will clearly reflect on the outside. The other party can always tell if we’re communicating with the intent to understand, or if we’re communicating with expectations. When we communicate to understand, that’s the only goal with no expectations of how they should respond, and it’s easier for us because the other person feels that we are more intent on listening more than we are in talking, and that encourages them to open up more to tell us their thoughts. Everyone is responsible for how they communicate, but we can always help each other along, especially if we have the same goals. Focus on the objective, and be happy, always!

Happiness State of Mind Quotes

A guy met one of his school mates several years after school and he could not believe his eyes; his friend was driving one of the latest sleek Mercedes Benz cars.

He went home feeling awful and very disappointed in himself.
He thought he was a failure.

What he didn’t know was that his friend was a driver and had been sent to run errands with his boss’s car.

Rosemary nagged her husband always for not being romantic.
She accused him for not getting down to open the car door for her as her friend Jane’s husband did when he dropped her off at work.

What Rosemary didn’t know that Jane’s husband car had a faulty door that could only be opened from the outside.

Sampson’s wife went to visit one of her long time friends and was very troubled within for seeing the 3 lovely kids of her friend playing around.

Her problem was that she had only one child and have been struggling to conceive for the past five years.

What she didn’t know was that one of those kids who was the biological child of her friend had sickle cell and had just a year to live; the other two are adopted.

Life does not have a universal measuring tool so create yours and use it.

Looking at people and comparing yourself with them will not make you better.

If you knew the sort of load the chameleon carried, you would’nt ask why it takes those gentle strides.

Enjoy what you have…!!

Lifestyle is not a competition, various lanes lead to the same destination.

Just because our neighbour has amassed material possessions, it does not mean that we are a failure.

Happiness doesn’t come from having everything, but making the best out of what we have, it’s all about how we see ourselves.

Happiness is not having what we like.
Happiness is liking what we have and learning to make the most of it by giving it!!!
Happiness is a state of mind !!